How to Teach Self-Calming Techniques to Children with Autism | Cultivate BHE

Teaching self-calming techniques is an important part of helping them manage emotions. Children with autism often experience sensory overload, anxiety, or frustration that can lead to challenging behaviors. By teaching them self-calming strategies, we can empower them to cope with overwhelming emotions and navigate difficult situations. 

Incorporating these techniques, through methods like ABA therapy, provides the structure and support that children with autism need to learn essential coping skills. Let’s explore how to teach these techniques effectively, the benefits of doing so, and how services like ABA therapy can play a role in this process. 

What Are Self-Calming Techniques? 

Self-calming techniques are strategies that help individuals soothe themselves during moments of stress, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm. These strategies can be simple activities or routines that promote relaxation and emotional regulation. The right techniques can prevent meltdowns, encourage emotional expression, and improve overall behavior. 

How to Teach Self-Calming Techniques to Children with Autism 

  1. Identify Triggers: Before teaching any self-calming strategies, it’s important to understand the specific triggers that cause anxiety or distress. For children with autism, sensory sensitivities or changes in routine may be significant stressors. By identifying these triggers, you can introduce calming techniques at the right moments. 
  1. Use Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) Strategies: One effective way to teach self-calming techniques is through ABA therapy. This therapy is based on principles of applied behavior analysis and focuses on reinforcing positive behaviors while reducing negative ones. ABA therapy provides structured support, which is vital for children with autism to learn new skills and cope with overwhelming emotions. 
  1. Model Calming Behaviors: Children with autism may not always know how to calm themselves without guidance. Start by modeling calming behaviors—such as deep breathing, using a stress ball, or finding a quiet space—and encourage the child to imitate them. Over time, they will begin to internalize these calming strategies. 
  1. Use Visual Supports: Visual supports are essential tools in autism behavior support. Visual schedules or charts showing different self-regulation techniques (e.g., “deep breathing,” “count to 10,” “use sensory toy”) can provide children with a clear, understandable reminder of how to calm down. These visual aids work well because they align with the visual learning style many children with autism may prefer. 
  1. Teach Deep Breathing and Relaxation Techniques: Deep breathing is one of the most effective self-calming strategies for children with autism. Teach your child how to take slow, deep breaths using a visual aid, such as blowing bubbles or imagining blowing out a candle. These simple exercises can help children regain control over their emotions during stressful situations. 
  1. Introduce Sensory Tools: Sensory tools, such as fidget toys, weighted blankets, or noise-canceling headphones, can help children with autism manage sensory overload and reduce anxiety. Introduce these tools gradually and observe which ones your child responds to the most. 
  1. Create a Calming Routine: Children with autism thrive on routine. Creating a calming routine can help them predict what’s coming next and prepare emotionally for transitions. A consistent routine that includes self-calming strategies (such as taking breaks or practicing deep breathing) can become a valuable tool in the child’s self-regulation toolkit. 
  1. Incorporate Positive Reinforcement: Use positive reinforcement to encourage the child when they successfully use self-calming techniques. ABA therapy utilizes reinforcement strategies, such as praise or small rewards, to motivate children to repeat appropriate behaviors. Reinforcement helps children feel proud of their ability to self-regulate. 

Benefits of Teaching Self-Calming Techniques 

Teaching self-calming techniques offers numerous benefits for children with autism. These include: 

  1. Reduced Meltdowns and Stress: By learning how to manage their emotions, children are less likely to experience meltdowns or outbursts, reducing the overall stress in both their lives and their caregivers’ lives. 
  1. Improved Emotional Regulation: Self-calming techniques help individuals develop better emotional regulation, which can lead to more positive interactions with peers and adults. 
  1. Increased Independence: As they learn and practice self-calming techniques, they gain more independence in managing their emotions. This increased self-reliance helps them navigate everyday situations with greater ease. 
  1. Enhanced Social Skills: When children can effectively calm themselves, they are better able to engage with others, whether it’s in a classroom, a social setting, or at home. This enhances their social interactions and relationships. 
  1. Better Coping with Sensory Overload: Self-calming techniques allow them to cope with overwhelming sensory input, improving their ability to focus and interact with their environment. 
  1. Positive Behavioral Outcomes: Teaching self-calming techniques through ABA services helps reduce challenging behaviors. As children learn appropriate ways to manage stress, there is less likelihood of engaging in behaviors like aggression, self-injury, or repetitive behaviors. 

How ABA Therapy Helps in Teaching Self-Calming 

ABA therapy is a powerful tool for teaching self-calming techniques because it uses evidence-based strategies to break down skills into smaller, manageable steps. It emphasizes consistent practice and reinforcement, which are key elements in helping children with autism master new skills. 

ABA therapists often work closely with children and their families to create individualized plans that incorporate self-calming strategies. These tailored programs ensure that each child’s unique needs and challenges are addressed. Whether it’s practicing deep breathing, using sensory tools, or following a calming routine, ABA therapy provides ongoing support and feedback, ensuring the child’s progress over time. 

Incorporating autism behavior support through ABA ensures that children learn not only self-regulation techniques but also how to apply them in various situations. This approach empowers children to cope with emotional challenges and thrive in social and educational environments. 

Teaching self-calming techniques to children with autism is an essential part of their development. With the right tools, guidance, and support—especially through ABA therapy—children can learn to manage their emotions, reduce stress, and improve their quality of life. By introducing self-regulation strategies such as deep breathing, sensory tools, and positive reinforcement, you provide children with the foundation they need to handle difficult situations and enhance their independence. The benefits are far-reaching, positively impacting emotional well-being, social skills, and overall behavior. 

At Cultivate Behavioral Health & Education, we focus on family-centered care and continuous improvement. Contact us at 855-444-5664 with any questions. Our team is here to help walk you through the autism treatment journey, every step of the way!